I am very blessed to have a wonderful mother. She is one of the most selfless people I know, sometimes to her own detriment. She is also fabulous company and a great listener who gives wise and thoughtful feedback. We share a sense of humor and a love of a glass (or two) of wine in the evening. One of my favorite things in the world is to be able to come home and have a good chat with my mom over a glass of wine.
Four years ago my husband and I moved away from the area where I grew up and where my family live. Three years ago my mom, her partner and my adopted sister moved away too. My dad, my stepmother, my half brother, my sister and my niece remain in the town where I grew up. It is not easy for us to be scattered. We’re all pretty close and we really miss each other. With the birth of my niece in April it is especially hard to be far away as she grows up. My absolute favorite thing is to be surrounded by my family and whilst I am also blessed to have great in-laws who live close by, it is not quite the same as being close to my own immediate family.
But my mom is an absolute trooper. She has driven hours and hours and hours to spend time with my sister and me, and she has spent a fortune on airfare. Despite being so far away, she is always there for us when we need her the most. So it is that this week, on the back of our ‘Black Monday’, when our first IVF cycle was cancelled, my mom flew into town to come and spend some time with me and my husband.
It was exactly what the doctor ordered. We talked and laughed and cooked and drank wine and went for walks and shared numerous stories about our animals. She has been feeling so desperate for us to be out of this infertility hell that she has not really understood why we don’t just fast track to adoption. So we talked some more and she heard me and understood what it means to me to carry a child. She helped out with cooking and shopping despite not having a car and having to walk to and from the shops. She cuddled and petted my animals and my kitty especially loved having her granny to visit.
She mothered me and it was exactly what I needed. So thank you mom… You’re the best and I really hope to have the opportunity to have the kind of relationship with my kids, that I am fortunate enough to have with you!
(My mom and sister are the only ones who I have shared my blog with so my mom will read this….Mom, no pressure to comment😉).